The Ultimate Surprise- Why We Are Waiting to Find Out the Gender
As you can imagine we have started getting the question, are you going to find out what the baby is? So we have decided to come out front and say that we are waiting until the baby's birthday to find out what we are having. Being our third and having been blessed with both girl and boy, it makes sense as to why we might want to wait. It wasn't really a decision made lightly but we have made up our minds about it and are content with waiting out the 9 months. Everyone has a reason why they choose to do things for their families and here are a few reasons that lead us to wanting to wait to find out.
- We want the surprise.
I am a lover of surprises. Always have been. Sure I like to try and figure it out sometimes and I get a little anxious, who doesn't, but overall I enjoy surprises especially when they are pulled off. (I can be pretty hard to surprise sometimes). They're also very few surprises in life anymore that are truly, good surprises. Everything is always at our fingertips, and so it's neat be old fashion and wait out the surprise.
-We don't necessarily have a gender preference.
We have known for a while now that we have wanted a third child. And as these few years have passed, we have always debated about what we were going to do. Once we finally and truly became satisfied with having either another girl or another boy, then it became easier to make the decision to not find out. And it's comforting to know that I can truly say I'm fine with either gender at this point. The most important thing that we pray about and care about is being blessed with another healthy baby.
-We are focusing on living in the moment.
Social media and smart phones have us distracted while so many important things in life go by. And this is something that we really want to cherish and live in the moment through the whole nine months while we wait to find out what this precious baby will be. And of course when the time comes, that time will be more special than ever, more special than we probably can imagine. And I know for a fact that we will be soaking up that moment with every ounce of our being. And I'm sure it will be a moment we will never forget.
-It's entertaining to hear everyone's prediction of what you'll be having and why they are right.
Everyone has an opinion, and when you become pregnant those opinions and advice usually gets thrown on you. Of course I don't mind, I like hearing all the advice and all the stories. Nothing really harmful comes from it. But to us it's entertaining to hear why people think we're having a boy or having a girl. (A family member once said we would have all girls 😉.) In the end everybody has a 50% chance of being right, right?
-We completely remove any chance of having the ultrasound tech make a mistake on the gender.
Of course this isn't uncommon. But sometimes it can be a heart wrenching thing. I've had many friends find out too early and announce one gender, and then a month later suddenly their little girl is a boy, or their little boy is actually a girl. (What a surprise that is, I can only imagine☺️). This way we will know *for sure* what baby is the first time.
-We won't feel disappointed if we find out are having the opposite gender of what we were desiring.
This goes along with the point above. We shouldn't be ashamed to say that some of us have been disappointed or a little let down when you found out you were having the opposite gender of what we are hoping for. And there's nothing wrong with that. That doesn't mean you don't love this baby any less, that just means you have to prepare for something you weren't quite ready for. But in the end, you won't be able to imagine your family without that little one. I feel confident that when they place my baby in my arms and my husband announces, "it's a boy!" or "it's a girl!" my heart won't drop with disappointment, but I will be over the moon, ecstatic of the precious bundle of joy that was laid into my arms. I will be so excited no matter the gender. Because now I don't have to wait another 4 to 5 months to meet my baby once we know the gender. And I feel like this moment will be a special moment and I can't wait to experience it.❤️
-We will experience an indescribable fulfillment when you get to finally announce the gender of your baby that has been growing in secret for 9 months.
I know I can't wait to see the looks on our family member's faces and to watch their reactions when they find out what we're having AND get to hold him/her *right* then. I can't wait!
-It's A perfect opportunity to practice patience.
God provides us with situations that teaches us patients. Many of us might think of more "trying times" that causes us to practice patience. Like learning to be patient with a family member that always tends to get on our nerves, or waiting in the waiting room for an eternity when you should've been called back an hour ago, or learning to be patient with your kids and speak in a calm tone when they've been driving you crazy all day, and so on. But we can also learn to practice patience and be content, and exciting moments. Nowadays by a touch of our fingers, we have the answers to almost everything. They are now testing earlier and earlier (through blood tests) to let people know the posible gender of their babies simply because- we can't wait. We don't mind taking the higher chance of being wrong simple because we want to know now. We are living in a time where we know everything almost immediately because of social media, because of the news, because of Google+, you name it. Of course there is an advantage to knowing before birth so you can plan ahead and there's nothing wrong with that.
Choosing to wait until their birthday to know what gender is going to be takes commitment, takes patience, takes conetentment. We get to choose what situation we want to be in and we can choose to practice patience. I wasn't 100% on board with this decision when we first thought about it a couple of years ago. It took time and convincing that this was something we wanted to do and could do. So by the time baby three became real, we were already set in our decision. Of course this isnt the main reason why were choosing to wait. There's no real "better way" here, to wait or not to wait.. Of course we don't think that it's wrong if you don't wait, we obviously didn't wait with our previous two. I definitely think that this is a benefit if you decide to wait. It challenges us to stay committed to our decision. Instead of always thinking "man I can't believe we have to wait nine months to find out", we train our minds to be content, because you know that in nine months (which will be here before you know it) you'll be holding your precious baby in your arms! And then nothing else will really matter. 😊
Over all the bottom line is- we are set in our decision- so please don't try to get us to change our minds. 🙂 If you're dying to know what we will have then maybe this can help you with patience too. Hahaha! Kidding. You're not alone! Some days it's not easy. But they've made so many awesome gender neutral things that it's still fun (and possible) to plan ahead. So until Feb 2018...☺️
- We want the surprise.
I am a lover of surprises. Always have been. Sure I like to try and figure it out sometimes and I get a little anxious, who doesn't, but overall I enjoy surprises especially when they are pulled off. (I can be pretty hard to surprise sometimes). They're also very few surprises in life anymore that are truly, good surprises. Everything is always at our fingertips, and so it's neat be old fashion and wait out the surprise.
-We don't necessarily have a gender preference.
We have known for a while now that we have wanted a third child. And as these few years have passed, we have always debated about what we were going to do. Once we finally and truly became satisfied with having either another girl or another boy, then it became easier to make the decision to not find out. And it's comforting to know that I can truly say I'm fine with either gender at this point. The most important thing that we pray about and care about is being blessed with another healthy baby.
-We are focusing on living in the moment.
Social media and smart phones have us distracted while so many important things in life go by. And this is something that we really want to cherish and live in the moment through the whole nine months while we wait to find out what this precious baby will be. And of course when the time comes, that time will be more special than ever, more special than we probably can imagine. And I know for a fact that we will be soaking up that moment with every ounce of our being. And I'm sure it will be a moment we will never forget.
-It's entertaining to hear everyone's prediction of what you'll be having and why they are right.
Everyone has an opinion, and when you become pregnant those opinions and advice usually gets thrown on you. Of course I don't mind, I like hearing all the advice and all the stories. Nothing really harmful comes from it. But to us it's entertaining to hear why people think we're having a boy or having a girl. (A family member once said we would have all girls 😉.) In the end everybody has a 50% chance of being right, right?
-We completely remove any chance of having the ultrasound tech make a mistake on the gender.
Of course this isn't uncommon. But sometimes it can be a heart wrenching thing. I've had many friends find out too early and announce one gender, and then a month later suddenly their little girl is a boy, or their little boy is actually a girl. (What a surprise that is, I can only imagine☺️). This way we will know *for sure* what baby is the first time.
-We won't feel disappointed if we find out are having the opposite gender of what we were desiring.
This goes along with the point above. We shouldn't be ashamed to say that some of us have been disappointed or a little let down when you found out you were having the opposite gender of what we are hoping for. And there's nothing wrong with that. That doesn't mean you don't love this baby any less, that just means you have to prepare for something you weren't quite ready for. But in the end, you won't be able to imagine your family without that little one. I feel confident that when they place my baby in my arms and my husband announces, "it's a boy!" or "it's a girl!" my heart won't drop with disappointment, but I will be over the moon, ecstatic of the precious bundle of joy that was laid into my arms. I will be so excited no matter the gender. Because now I don't have to wait another 4 to 5 months to meet my baby once we know the gender. And I feel like this moment will be a special moment and I can't wait to experience it.❤️
-We will experience an indescribable fulfillment when you get to finally announce the gender of your baby that has been growing in secret for 9 months.
I know I can't wait to see the looks on our family member's faces and to watch their reactions when they find out what we're having AND get to hold him/her *right* then. I can't wait!
-It's A perfect opportunity to practice patience.
God provides us with situations that teaches us patients. Many of us might think of more "trying times" that causes us to practice patience. Like learning to be patient with a family member that always tends to get on our nerves, or waiting in the waiting room for an eternity when you should've been called back an hour ago, or learning to be patient with your kids and speak in a calm tone when they've been driving you crazy all day, and so on. But we can also learn to practice patience and be content, and exciting moments. Nowadays by a touch of our fingers, we have the answers to almost everything. They are now testing earlier and earlier (through blood tests) to let people know the posible gender of their babies simply because- we can't wait. We don't mind taking the higher chance of being wrong simple because we want to know now. We are living in a time where we know everything almost immediately because of social media, because of the news, because of Google+, you name it. Of course there is an advantage to knowing before birth so you can plan ahead and there's nothing wrong with that.
Choosing to wait until their birthday to know what gender is going to be takes commitment, takes patience, takes conetentment. We get to choose what situation we want to be in and we can choose to practice patience. I wasn't 100% on board with this decision when we first thought about it a couple of years ago. It took time and convincing that this was something we wanted to do and could do. So by the time baby three became real, we were already set in our decision. Of course this isnt the main reason why were choosing to wait. There's no real "better way" here, to wait or not to wait.. Of course we don't think that it's wrong if you don't wait, we obviously didn't wait with our previous two. I definitely think that this is a benefit if you decide to wait. It challenges us to stay committed to our decision. Instead of always thinking "man I can't believe we have to wait nine months to find out", we train our minds to be content, because you know that in nine months (which will be here before you know it) you'll be holding your precious baby in your arms! And then nothing else will really matter. 😊
Over all the bottom line is- we are set in our decision- so please don't try to get us to change our minds. 🙂 If you're dying to know what we will have then maybe this can help you with patience too. Hahaha! Kidding. You're not alone! Some days it's not easy. But they've made so many awesome gender neutral things that it's still fun (and possible) to plan ahead. So until Feb 2018...☺️
We chose to wait with both of ours and I have never regretted it. The feeling of surprise when the baby arrives is so worth it! BTW- Very nice, well written post Jessica!
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Thank you!
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